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This blog exists to provide encouragement and help for pastors' wives.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

New Beginnings by Becky Dietz



New beginnings.  Don't we all love them?  It's a fresh start.  A do-over.  Another chance.  It's the promise that things can be different.

But a new beginning also suggests you know how to break out of the old patterns.  And some people lose their way.  For instance, one of my son's friends came to Andy & I with deep grief.  He'd lost his way.  He had entered a profession that was fast-paced and came with lots of temptations.  And he'd succumbed to those temptations.  He'd become a prodigal and he didn't know how to find his way back home.  I think it was the first time I realized how badly the enemy deceives us when we lose our way.  We sat with him, cried with him, put our arms around him and showed him all it takes is asking God to forgive us to find our way home.  He confessed his sin to God, asked for forgiveness and a ton of weight fell off of our friend that day!  He was safely back in the Father's arms.  Of course, then he had to learn how to forgive himself and close the doors to those temptations---and run towards God!!

A new beginning can be just for you.  You may have lost your way.  Or you may have been wounded by those around you.  Both situations require forgiveness.  Asking God to forgive you...and forgiving others.  I long for that weight to fall off of your shoulders today.  It may not be easy...but it's simple.  Ask God to forgive you for anything standing between you and Him--anything hindering your relationship.  And then choose to forgive others.  They may have wounded you deeply, accused you, or tried to ruin your reputation publicly.  To carry unforgiveness not only hinders your relationship with that person, but it will affect your relationship with God.  And not only will it affect those relationships, it will affect you mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically.  I'm convinced it becomes a cancer that eats at us.

A new beginning can be for your church.  As the leaders of your church, you can encourage and help your members to start over by seeking forgiveness from God and one another. Of course, we know the Spirit of God will have to be involved for the whole church to be affected.  It's easy when we can choose for ourselves our own outcome.  But we can't force it on others.  I'm convinced that when we become honest, open, transparent and lead by example...it can affect an entire church.  And we should pray that way!  We need to be asking God to redeem us, restore us, to give us a new beginning. It may not happen all at once.  But slowly...step by step...restoration can take place.  And it's a beautiful thing to see!

Let's pray for new beginnings...for ourselves and our churches.  I know nothing would bless the heart of God more than to see His children walking together with Him in unity.

May your year be blessed with New Beginnings!

Thursday, December 4, 2014

Keeping Your Focus During Christmas by Becky Dietz


I remember one year, at a former church, when we literally had more than a dozen Christmas parties to go to.  We were expected to be at each one and it was exhausting.  What was even harder was keeping my focus on the reason for the season--Jesus.  Because those parties honestly had nothing to do with Jesus.

I really love Christmas.  I love thinking about Mary and Joseph being in that barn, having baby Jesus and wrapping him in swaddling clothes.  I love thinking about the shepherds in the field and the magnificent sight of the angels in the heavens above.  I love being around my family and watching the children's excitement as they open gifts.  I can hardly sleep Christmas Eve in anticipation of that very thing.

But how do I keep my focus on Jesus?  I remember it's HIS birthday.  That's not hard since my birthday is December 16.  As much as I enjoy being around friends and family on my birthday and being celebrated, I try to do the same for Jesus.  I spend time with him, acknowledging it's his birthday, blessing him.  In the past, we've made birthday cakes for Jesus.  I've given him gifts.  It may be giving to something or someone I know he cares about.  This year, my gift is just spending quality time with him each morning leading up to his birthday.

I'm also celebrating by loving and using the gifts he's given me.  There's someone on my gift-giving list who always acts disappointed with what I give her.  It's disheartening.  But I used to do the same thing.  I would be given a lovely gift, but because of "unworthiness issues" in my own life, I'd give it to someone I thought would love it.  I hate that I did that.  But don't we do that with Jesus?  He's given us so many beautiful gifts which we never even acknowledge or use.  I'm choosing to delight in the gifts he's given me and use them knowing he'll be pleased.

I can tell you I petitioned hard in our former church not to have so many parties the next year.  I'm all for festivities...but I love keeping it simple.  I want to focus on Jesus and celebrate him.

How do you keep your focus during Christmas?